Don’t Ever Give Up On Love

Wisdom from Paulo Coelho. Regardless of how broken your heart is…you need to continue.

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Tim Ferris Turns 36 In Style

What a great idea for a birthday! What I like best? 100% of the money goes to the development of clean water sources.

A $36,000 Birthday Gift (Plus: Free Roundtrip Anywhere in the World)

Written by Topics: Filling the Void

I’m turning 36 years young! Here in a village in the Tigray Region of Ethiopia.

My 36th birthday is here!

It’s going to be a great natal year–I can already feel it. Perhaps it will be good luck for you, too. In this post, I’m giving away a round-trip ticket anywhere in the world.

But back to that strange birthday gift…

Much to the chagrin of my momma-san, I’ve become quite difficult to buy presents for. Some friends even think I’m impossible to find presents for. Not so. I love handwritten letters, homemade brownies, girlfriends in next-to-nothing, and–most of all–when people do something nice.

You, my dear readers, have an awesome track record of doing nice things.

For my b-day in 2010, you all raised more than $100,000 for high-need public school classrooms in the US.  In 2011, you helped build libraries overseas (Cambodia, Nepal, Sri Lanka, and Vietnam), and last year, you helped poor youth in developing nations finish school.

In lieu of gifts this year, my birthday wish is to provide clean water to the people who need it most. I’m doing it on this page. There are fun prizes involved, so keep reading.

I recently traveled to the Tigray Region in Ethiopia with the incredible Charity: Water team. I witnessed, first-hand, what life is like for people living without clean, safe water.

Nearly 1 billion people worldwide fall into this group. For me, it’s not just a health issue. That’s not the most interesting part. If you want to offer a hand up (education, work) and not a hand out, water is highly leveraged for breaking the cycle of poverty.

In fact, every $1 invested in improved water access and sanitation can yield an average of $12 in economic returns.

Here’s how:

In Africa alone, people spend 40 billion hours every year (e.g. the entire annual workforce of France!) walking for water. Women and children usually bear the burden of water collection, walking for miles to the nearest source. The solution? Installing simple water wells for clean water in strategically close locations.

Children can then spend more time in classrooms learning, and women can contribute to their communities with their minds instead of carrying jerry cans most of the day.

A jerry can, 40 pounds when full.

Clean water creates more capable problem solvers in places with persistent problems. If you want to empower people instead of doling out aid indefinitely, this is a powerful starting point.

Here’s what I’d love to ask, and where the free roundtrip ticket comes in:

1. Join my 36th birthday challenge by clicking here. It’s worth clicking through just to check out the site. Donations are tax-deductible.

2. To get your engines started, I’ve put in $3,600 of my own money.

3. If the spirit moves you, please make a $36 donation (or whatever you can: $1, $36, $1,000, etc.) to providing clean water to those who need it most. Even a $1 can make a big difference!

4. Charity: Water sends 100% of every donation directly to fund projects in the field. No “administrative fees” or anything–every penny of every dollar goes to the field. Cool, right? And because I was just in Ethiopia, they’ll be sending it there. The best part: Charity: Water will report back in 18 months with GPS coordinates, photos and information about the communities we’ve impacted.

- If you all help raise $36,000, I will personally add another $5,000.
– If you all help raise $100,000 (100% doable), I’ll add on a total of $10,000.
– The deadline is 5pm PST on Friday, August 2nd, 2013.

Sweetening the Pot…

– I’m giving away a free round-trip ticket anywhere in the world that Star Alliance flies, which is just about everywhere. There is no expiration date on the trip, so no rush on deciding where or when to go. If you like, I’ll fly you to San Francisco to have dinner with me, but other places might be more interesting :)

Here’s how to get it:

– Spread the word however you can. Send people to this post or to my Charity: Water birthday page. Here’s the URL for copying and pasting:

– Leave a comment below telling me what you did (Facebook, Twitter, blog post, e-mail blast, e-mail signature, encouraged employees/friends to do the same, company donation matching, etc.). Measurement of any type gets huge bonus points. This comment must be put up no later than 5pm PST on Friday, August 2nd, 2013.

– Lastly, answer one question at the very top of your comment: “What does education mean to you?” Begin your answer with “To me, education means…”

Based on comments, I’ll pick the top five promoters. Then, you’ll all vote on the winner of the round-trip.

But the best reason of all to participate…

Beyond the bribes, you’ll feel awesome about yourself for doing real good for people who have so little. People who, without water, might not have much of a future at all.

Trust me. It feels great.

Will you pause for a moment and step up, even if for $1? It would mean the world to me. I’ll share updates as I get them.

Again, here is where to go to donate $1, $36, $360, or whatever you can.

Thank you for reading this post. You are all rock stars, and I continue to write on this blog purely because of you.

Pura vida!


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Relationship Success Requires Good Communication Skills


Communication Is More Than Just Words

Have you ever been in a fight with someone you love?

We have all been there, and it is not pleasant. But when you look closely you see there are many layers within our communication. In the recording industry they call these layers “tracks” and breaking our communication into tracks can help us to see what is really going on a little more clearly.

The first track is of course, the words that are spoken. Taken without the other tracks they are just words like – “I never really wanted to be with you and always felt you were an idiot with no class or scruples. You are an arrogant and horrible person.” What do those words really say to you?

You have to look at the other tracks if you really want to communicate. In this case you must look at the second track, where the emotional energies of anger and hurt live. This emotional energy track is what gives the words more impact. Both in terms of being hurtful, and in revealing the hurt in the person speaking the words. This person is upset and angry. This person may want to change the entire relationship, that is possible, but more likely they have a specific need that is not being met.

If you can put your own hurt and anger aside, you will be able to respond from a place of objectivity and care. This will allow you to respond in a more effective way.

You might respond with “Is it really true that you do not want to be with me? And what changes would you like me to make? I am so sorry, I want to understand, I want to make this work.” Now you are setting the communication for success, setting the tone for true compromise and resolution. This is productive communication and works much better than emotional battling.

Successful Communication Tools

Putting aside your own anger is hard, putting aside the desire to find right and wrong is hard, staying focused on the other person and helping them to get what they want is hard (especially when they are attaching you). Having tools can help, here are two that I use:

  1. Take myself out of the equation – take a breath and pretend it is a friend telling me about somebody else and asking my advice – get objective and with an open heart – do not take it personally. 
  2. Picture the other person as a small child – I like to picture a adorable toddler that is still learning how to deal with the world, a toddler that is cute and loves you dearly but has all these emotional impulses and does not know how to deal with them – a toddler that I know is really looking to me for guidance and help and love. 

The Greater Good

Learning to communicate better is our job. We do not have to hunt our food, find our water, fight off animals, discover new lands, learn to use fire, or any of the other things those who came before us struggled with. No, that is no longer our job for the greater good. Our job is to evolve emotionally.

Learning to communicate more effectively with those we are close to is critical to the survival and thriving of our species. This is a good thing, because in addition to the direct benefits you will receive by becoming a better communicator, you will also be helping the entire species evolve. That is a lot of motivation.

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Super Charge Your Coffee

Below is a post from Dave Asprey’s site The Bulletproof Executive. But before we get started, a few thoughts and comments to consider:

First, if you are not used to eating high quality fats, particularly in this quantity, go slow. Just add a little and then more later. The fat can be a little bit of a shock to your system. My particular metabolism loves high quality fats, so this drink actually speeds up my metabolism. Not everybody’s metabolism is the same so use your own awareness and judgment.

Second, this is for people that already drink coffee, not a call to start drinking it. It is a really good method of making your coffee taste great without dairy products or sweeteners, and it will add super healthy fats to your diet.

Third, you do not need to purchase any of the products, and it does not have to be made precisely the way the article states, you can improvise and have fun! I use decaffeinated Dazbog coffee that I get from Vitamin Cottage, 2 tablespoons of organic, unsalted, KerryGold butter from Whole Foods (Costco sells KerryGold butter too), and 2-3 big tablespoons of organic coconut oil that I buy from Whole Foods. Try variations to see what you like.

Lastly, the caffeine. Personally I do not drink caffeinated coffee, I drink decaffeinated coffee. Dove Mahnke, whose opinion I respect, has this to say –

Out of fairness, I think, you should let people know that caffeine from any kind of coffee, especially in the mornings, activates the thyroid gland before it should be activated. This is a reason for many people, who have the morning coffee habit, to come down with hypothyroidism later in life. Some people have 10, some 20 years but many have to go on thyroid medication.

You do have so much energy with good coffee because your adrenals as well as your thyroid are pumping hormones into the system that get and keep you running but thyroid fatigue is predictable. The thyroid gland should run our metabolism starting early to mid afternoon for 12 hours, the morning time is the time for the adrenals to run the system and give the thyroid a break.

Yes fat burning is activated because the thyroid, which is responsible for much of the fatty metabolism, gets activated through the intake of caffeine.

Now some people will have less of a problem than others but I am giving you this information for those people, who are already dealing with thyroid problems. It’s just fair that they know the risks.

Thank you Dove. Now to the post from Dave Asprey –

Recipe: How to Make Your Coffee Bulletproof…And Your Morning Too

NOVEMBER 10, 2010 · 1,020 COMMENTS

When people hear more than half my calories come from healthy fats, one of the most common questions after “Why?” is “How?”

I start the day with a cup of Bulletproof coffee. I learned about the power of butter at 18,000 feet elevation near Mt. Kailash in Tibet when I staggered into a guest house from the -10 degree weather and was literally rejuvenated by a creamy cup of yak butter tea. The biohacker in me asked, “why?” and that was the genesis of my recipe below, which is widely heralded as a cognitive enhancing recipe.

Dave Asprey near Mt. Kailash

It was John Patrick Henry’s 2nd cousin’s boyfriend Juan Valdez who said, “Give me high-end coffee or give me death.” That’s because toxins in cheap coffee (Starbucks included) will steal your mental edge and actually make you weak, but clean coffee actually fights cancer and provides antioxidants.

So I use the lowest toxin, highest performance coffee there is (I know, because I created it and tested it!), brew it, and then I blend unsalted grass-fed butter into it. Yes, butter. All the benefits of healthy milk fat with none of the damaging denatured casein proteins found in cream. It makes for the creamiest, most satisfying cup of coffee you’ve ever had. It will keep you satisfied with level energy for 6 hours if you need it. And because I’m having it for breakfast, I’m programming my body to burn fat for energy all day long!

Bulletproof Coffee Recipe

  • Start with 4-500 ml (2 mugs) of black coffee brewed with my mold-freeUpgraded Coffee beans.   (Why this is important)
  • Add 2 Tbs (or more, up to 80 grams, about 2/3 of a standard stick of butter) of Kerry Gold or other UNSALTED grass-fed butter
  • Add 30 grams of MCT oil for max energy, weight loss and brain function (this is 6 times stronger than coconut oil, your next best choice)
  • Blend with a pre-heated hand blender, Magic Bullet, or (best) counter top blender until there is a creamy head of foam. (It doesn’t work well if you mix it with a spoon)

It’s really fast and easy to prepare.  Realize salted coffee is a crime. Do not do this with salted butter. Bleah.

Kerrygold butter or another grass-fed brand of butter really matters because corn or soy-fed cows don’t make butter with the same fats. Those butters don’t blend well, don’t taste good, and don’t make you feel Bulletproof.

Grass-fed butter is much healthier than other butter.  It doesn’t make cholesterol levels worse, it optimizes them!  Starting your day with grass-fed butter will give you lots of energy and it will give your body healthy fats that it will use to make cell walls and hormones.

If you’re like most of my friends who try this, your body is so starved for healthy fats that you feel like you can’t get enough. It will take your body a week or two to fully turn on its fat digestion systems when you switch to a high healthy fat breakfast of Bulletproof coffee. If at first it is a little too rich, try using less butter at first and build up to the amount you like. Taking a betaine HCl or digestive enzyme supplement with your coffee will also help your body digest the butter.

Try this just once, with only 2 Tbs of butter, and have nothing else for breakfast. You will experience one of the best mornings of your life, with boundless energy and focus. It’s amazing.

After one drink of Bulletproof coffee, you’ll never be tempted to eat fat-free, insulin-raising, fat-storing toast and oatmeal breakfasts again!

P.S. If you benefit from this post, I’d really appreciate it if you tried my Upgraded Coffee beans. I created them for maximum mental performance and health, and they work, costing $2 more than Starbucks normal beans, and less than their “Reserve” coffee. The proceeds support the research that gets published on this site, and your brain really will notice the difference. Thank you.

P.S.S. Thanks for linking here if you write about Bulletproof Coffee! Bulletproof is a registered trademark for my small company. If you want to use it, just ask!

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Lose Weight With Hypnosis


Ready For Summer?

Vanity is a good thing if it helps us become more healthy and fit. Right? Right. Lets use that vanity for a little motivation and get into shape this summer, and then stay in shape for the rest of our life!

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The coaching program can be in person or over the phone. If you live outside of the Denver metro area or would just prefer to have your coaching sessions by phone you simply dial into the conference number or Skype while you are in the comfort of your home or office, while you are on vacation or a business trip – from wherever you are during the time of the call. Each call is 60-minutes with one call each week. You will be able to access the call from any telephone or computer in the world.

6-Weeks of Personal Coaching Calls — $595. All calls are 60 minutes and there is one call per week for a total of 6 calls over a 6 week period. Please call me to set up your personal coaching call – David 720-295-5360. Pay for coaching calls.

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